[dani0303]

I should probably have an alter for this, but I don't really care. If you're really religious or sensitive, this probably isn't a thread for you to read. Fair warning.

Here goes... I have reason to believe I'm pregnant. This is not a reason to celebrate, actually it's a reason to panic. I am a week late and the stick I peed on said I was. I have no intention of keeping it, so if you're going to try and lecture me into it, don't waste your breath (keystrokes?). I am 24, essentially single, and still in school. I can barely support myself, much less a child. I am on birth control and I am very vigilant about taking it. I'm not really sure how this happened in the first place

For those of you who have gone through this procedure (I can't be the only one!) what can I expect? I have an appointment tomorrow morning to confirm (or hopefully contradict!) the home test results. Then what? I know it will all be explained to me tomorrow but I'm nervous. This is a time that I wish my mom was still alive.

[Adamantane]

PM.

[happymom]

All my support to you....

[HJalter123]

I haven't gone through something like that (ie unwanted pregnancy) but I do have some thoughts:

I'm not going to tell you what to do one way or the other (ie to do the procedure or not). However, what I would recommend is talking to your OB/GYN about what happened. You mentioned that you have been "very vigilant" but clearly something wasn't working properly. It would be good to find out why so you can reduce your anxiety in the future.

[SMF11]

I hope you are getting supportive PMs -- you most certainly are not the only one out there!

You will be OK.

[Coanteen]

If you are pregnant, you're early enough for a medical (non-surgical) termination. Generally an ultrasound is needed to confirm that, and the process can feel nasty (nausea, vomiting, chills, even diarrhea are common side effects), but it wouldn't require the D&C.

[mroades]

Hugs

[ex-racer owner]

Wishing you all the best for your appointment.

[Superminion]

I've been there. Sending you a PM.

[Alter-a-go-go]

Hopefully you will not get flamed here. I, for one, will have your back if you do.

No personal experiences with any procedures, but I had a scare of my own this weekend (though the stick said negative). Great big huge jingles for you......

[JGHIRETIRE]

What Coanteen said - no judgment here.
Good luck!!

[leheath]

Even with perfect, vigilant use of birth control pill, one in ever 100 women using it will get pregnant each year. The success/failure rate is the same for proper condom use. Unfortunately, short of sterilization or abstinence, there is no 100% fail-safe method to prevent pregnancy.

I'm sorry for the predicament you are in and I hope everything works out OK.

[Electrikk]

Sending more love and support your way!

[Pocket Pony]

I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. If you are pregnant and you choose to have an abortion, I hope you have someone IRL who can give you the support and love you need right now.

I'm not sure of the ins and outs of different types of procedures, but maybe look into general anesthesia?

Are there yet any drug options for this? Like the morning-after pill or RU486 (is that real/approved?)?

[MyGiantPony]

I'm religious, but also intensely pro-choice.

That early in the pregnancy, you'll have a medical abortion, which involves 2 stages of pills.

It will take anywhere from 3-5 days for the termination to be complete. Sometimes longer.

Sounds like you have your head on straight and aren't being pressured by anyone to make one choice or the other.

Good luck to you. It sucks being a statistic on the side of birth control failure.

[dani0303]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I do have a great group of people around me (including the boyfriend) but sometimes it's cathartic to vent to strangers.

Hugs to everyone

[lilitiger2]

I really hope things work out for you and so glad you have support.

[walknsound]

I'm so glad you have a good support system. Hugs.

[MunchingonHay]

I support you.

PM sent

[Jamie2337]

100% support here. Sending ya a PM.